You are fucked.
Conditioned to believe all of the bullshit you have been hearing since birth.
Go to school, accumulate a fuck load of debt, get a job you hate, pay taxes, get married, raise a family, retire and die.
Conditioned to believe that conformity is necessary.
Don’t worry about your true thoughts and views on the world, simply just agree and shake your head like a schmuck because you don’t want to hurt anyone else’s feelings.
Too tired to go to the gym? Forget it! Stay home, have some toaster strudels and watch reality T.V! Definitely a better option.
Or better yet, watch the news!
Let them pump toxic bullshit into your brain and use scare tactics to get you tuned into their network longer.
Fill your subconscious up with all kinds of positive information, like the old lady that got mugged in an alley, or the family of 5 that was murdered by some lunatic.
Who needs to read self-help books?! Spend your time watching Teen Mom instead.
Hang around people who doubt you, criticize you and hold you back.
Let this go on for years and years and end up like the majority of our society. Weak, unhealthy, overweight, depressed, scared and in debt.
Have shitty relationships, shitty energy, shitty sex, a shitty physique and a shitty outlook on life.
That is the life of someone who is fucked, and unfortunately that is a lot of the people you know, maybe even you.
I know this because I too was fucked at one point.
Most of my childhood involved fighting, screaming, crying, lies and drugs in my home life.
I didn’t realize how effected I was by this until my early twenties.
In my teens I thought it was just the norm. Don’t get me wrong, I knew that my family was a little more fucked up than my friend’s, but I never realized the toll it was taking on me.
When I was 15 I had my first panic attack.
Aside from the anxiety I was depressed and loaded with all types of fear, which led to me becoming super angry.
And my anger only added to the excessive violence that went on in my house.
My lifestyle consisted of plenty of alcohol and late nights. I literally would go to bed around 5am and not wake up until sometime around 3pm.
I felt like I had nothing to live for, no purpose and truly didn’t care. I was unhappy and heading nowhere fast.
As I mentioned before, I was fucked.
I thought about getting my life together, but just felt like I couldn’t.
I was lazy and couldn’t imagine the hard work it would take to change.
I was working as a strength coach and really enjoyed helping people get better, but I just didn’t have any sense of direction or ever put any thought into what my true purpose was, or who I was for that matter.
My life at home was very dark and I was consumed by the drugs and violence that was constantly going down.
There were nights I would be woken up by screaming and fighting only to find myself right in the middle of it.
I might as well have been the one doing drugs, since my life was revolving around them.
However, in early 2008 a few of my buddies wanted to try a new diet and get super lean for the first time. This was something new for me so I decided to give it shot. So, I wrote us up a few diets based on what I was learning at the facility where I was working.
Once we started, I was more committed to that diet than I was to anything else in my entire life.
Something clicked. I was learning discipline and my mindset began to change.
I didn’t even think about cheating or missing a meal. I was like a robot on a mission.
Of course after that 16 week run we all got super shredded and felt great, but that isn’t what’s most important.
I was changing from the inside out.
Suddenly I wasn’t so focused on what was going on at home. I wasn’t drinking much at all, I was going to bed earlier, studying training and nutrition, watching less T.V and spending more time with my friends who had the same goals.
As a result, I had more energy, more confidence, more strength, looked better, felt better, had better relationships, less stress, less anxiety and cared more about other people.
Which led me to realize what my true mission and purpose in life is…to help people, in any way that I can.
Sounds cliché, I know, but it’s true.
But that’s the reason why I am writing this post, and all posts I write. Because I know there are a lot of you that are going through some shit.
And whatever your shit is I want you to know that there is a way out. No matter how bad it is.
You too can get Unfucked!
To go back to my story, 2008 was a turning point for me.
What I learned was that when you set a goal that is difficult to accomplish, surround yourself with the right people, change your attitude and work your fucking ass off, life tends to be viewed differently.
The positivity from the people you surround yourself with will rub off on you. The discipline you develop will carry over into every aspect of your life and you realize that no matter how far away a goal may seem from the point you are at right now, it is possible to achieve it.
As years passed I continued to develop better habits. I have read tons of books and applied so much of the information I have learned to my own life.
If you asked me to read a book in 2007 I would have probably regurgitated the 16 beers and 22 White Castles I ate the night before, just before passing out in my own vomit.
The information I have gathered and applied over the years led me to starting my own business, walking away from jobs I didn’t enjoy, traveling, investing hard earned cash, managing money, helping other peopleand taking plenty of personal risks.
I am at a point where I have created boundaries with toxic people, including my own family members.
I can truly say that I am happy, and love the way my life is turning out.
I don’t say that to brag by any means. I say that to try and help you see that change is possible.
I am a living, breathing example of change and you can ask anyone who knows me.
But if you keep eating like shit, surrounding yourself with negative people, ignoring your emotions and consuming yourself with the news and mindless T.V, your subconscious mind will absorb all of that crap.
And change will get further and further away.
However, if you want something bad enough and align your daily habits with your goals, your life WILL change.
Here is a list of the daily habits and rituals that have helped me in my own life.
– Get 7-9 hours of sleep
– Wake up by 6 A.M.
– Meditate first thing in the morning for 10-20 minutes
– Walk for 15-20 minutes while listening to a podcast or something motivational
– Read my goals out loud
– Journal for 5 minutes
– Read for 15-30 minutes
I make sure I get all of that in BEFORE even considering looking at my phone. No texts, no emails, no social media, nothing! All that will do is force you to become REACTIVE instead of PROACTIVE.
When you do that you start your day on someone else’s terms instead of your own.
I cannot stress enough how important that is.
DO NOT let someone else dictate YOUR day.
When you do that, they will end up dictating your life.
I hope that my story can help inspire you to start reaching for bigger things and living the life you were meant to live.
Take action and stay focused! If you just START, even if it doesn’t seem like the right time, and stay CONSISTENT your life WILL change.
If you need any help at all with getting started, please shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I would love to share any advice I may have.
Until then ladies and gentlemen, UNfuck yourself.